I've been a #Mets fan since my dad came into my life... It's been a wild ride rooting for this team and I am NEVER going to stop!
#LGM !!!!!
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Tuesday, October 6, 2015
Is it me?...
Or is that family on the cover of #Cosmopolitan magazine this month getting way too much publicity? Shame on #Cosmopolitan for calling them America's "First Family". SHAME ON YOU!!!
I'm an avid reader, romance mostly, and I ... WHAT??? Is that so hard to believe? Well, I do. In fact, I'm a romantic. I'm a firm believer in love! I LOVE love. It hasn't worked out for me, (#BradleyCooper are you listening?), but I still believe in it.
Any hoo. I follow a lot of my favorite authors on social media. #JuliaLondon being one of them. She posted a great article on her Facebook page. Grrr, I'm a doofus and can't figure out how to attach the link. Of course, I added my two cents! It's about all I can afford at this point but I had to speak. I'm DONE with this family. DONE.
How was your day? I was busy being productive at work. At a REAL job. I kept thinking about ways to bring in extra income. My neighbor reminded me that I baked and made chocolate candy once upon a time. I'm thinking about that. Or maybe even do some errands on my days off. The holidays are around the corner and people love a yummy baked good, right? Pies. Cakes. I make a mean bread pudding. Ay, ay, ay.
I'm also emailing my local congressman and, senators and the governor of New York. Something had to be done to make my ex pay child support. Please don't forget my family, any thing would be appreciated.
This #SingleMom is climbing mountains. #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
I'm an avid reader, romance mostly, and I ... WHAT??? Is that so hard to believe? Well, I do. In fact, I'm a romantic. I'm a firm believer in love! I LOVE love. It hasn't worked out for me, (#BradleyCooper are you listening?), but I still believe in it.
Any hoo. I follow a lot of my favorite authors on social media. #JuliaLondon being one of them. She posted a great article on her Facebook page. Grrr, I'm a doofus and can't figure out how to attach the link. Of course, I added my two cents! It's about all I can afford at this point but I had to speak. I'm DONE with this family. DONE.
How was your day? I was busy being productive at work. At a REAL job. I kept thinking about ways to bring in extra income. My neighbor reminded me that I baked and made chocolate candy once upon a time. I'm thinking about that. Or maybe even do some errands on my days off. The holidays are around the corner and people love a yummy baked good, right? Pies. Cakes. I make a mean bread pudding. Ay, ay, ay.
I'm also emailing my local congressman and, senators and the governor of New York. Something had to be done to make my ex pay child support. Please don't forget my family, any thing would be appreciated.
This #SingleMom is climbing mountains. #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
Sunday, October 4, 2015
This #SingleMom is amazed...
#Tumblr #BabyGirl #BlondeBeauty
#BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
#BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
This #SingleMom is loving this weather!
Sooooo the last two weeks were busy. I had and upper respiratory infection, viral. "No antibiotics" said my lovely Russian doctor. We adore her. My throat was affected so I had no voice. Got teased a lot. My sister says I sound like Kathleen Turner. Others, say I sound masculine. Jim Carrey as Vera DeMilo is one. Personally, I think I sound like Harvey Fierstein... "I gotta call my mothuh! I gotta call my housekeepuh! I gotta call my lawyuh! Ah, fuhget my lawyer!" See what I did there? A little #IndependenceDay reference? #ID4 is huge in our house. Anyway, I'm healthy, thank goodness. Went to my doc for a follow-up and even got my flu shot.
It's currently cold and rainy in my neck of the woods. Perfect. No, really. Just perfect. I love this weather. I'm a fall baby.
Another thing I did was catch up on things for my kids. As you all know, the reason I began this blog is because my ex-husband has decided that his current family and situation is more important than supporting his children from his third marriage. The one when he was married to me! Yup, you're reading the words "third marriage" and probably saying "THIRD MARRIAGE"??? I didn't know I was the third, believe me. In fact, I thought I was the second. Even now, there's still debate about how many of us there were/are. Debbie, Sheila, Lisa, Becky, me. Not necessarily in that order and a not-so-fun fact I found AFTER we separated. Sociopathic and narcissistic, don't you think?
Well, my ex is now about many, many thousands of dollars in arrears. Rent is late, again. My daughter had a growth spurt and needs new things. Boots. Clothing. A coat. My son is saving for his tuition. The courts are STILL undecided as to how to handle this. There's no support for this #SingleMom or any mom like me. No money coming in from the non-custodial parent has a devastating effect. This home is riddled with anxiety, (thank you, Dr. Dick) and the NYS court system is a joke! The one luxury we have is cable. Necessary. The Wi-Fi is needed for homework and work. The tv is an escape, the kids and I bond over our favorite shows. However, the tv just went on the Fritz. It just keeps clicking and won't turn on. I called the company and they have given me misinformation, TWICE! Way to go #Samsung.
Back to the two weeks... My cousin married his beautiful love. As I watched them recite their vows and many times during their reception, I felt HAPPY. I saw pure LOVE. I saw sheer JOY. And for the tiniest second, I felt sad. For myself. I don't think I ever had that. Felt that kind of love and probably never will. I'm also okay with that, I have my children. When I looked at Ray and Karina, I was so happy that they have each other. My Ray is a wonderful man. He and my baby sister, Jean, are the youngest of our generation. He lived across the street from us and was always with us. He was like a little brother. He is a genuinely nice man. And good. And funny. Karina is beautiful and a joy to be around. They are really a good couple. I can't wait for the babies!
Another plus for me, my work environment changed. It was rough going for a while and then it all changed. I feel different when I walk in the building. Better. Lighter. I pray that all my colleagues are happy and feel that way too! Change is good. So, let's see where this goes.
Sunday... it's cold, wet and dreary. As I posted on Facebook yesterday, it's the kind of weather that inspires my soul. I love this time of year. It's easy to feel joy and see good things in the heat and sunshine. It's when you see it on days like these, or in the attic blast of winter, with a foot of snow on the ground... THAT'S when you know - you're going to be okay.
This #SingleMom asks that we all take care of one another. #LoveEachOther
It's currently cold and rainy in my neck of the woods. Perfect. No, really. Just perfect. I love this weather. I'm a fall baby.
Another thing I did was catch up on things for my kids. As you all know, the reason I began this blog is because my ex-husband has decided that his current family and situation is more important than supporting his children from his third marriage. The one when he was married to me! Yup, you're reading the words "third marriage" and probably saying "THIRD MARRIAGE"??? I didn't know I was the third, believe me. In fact, I thought I was the second. Even now, there's still debate about how many of us there were/are. Debbie, Sheila, Lisa, Becky, me. Not necessarily in that order and a not-so-fun fact I found AFTER we separated. Sociopathic and narcissistic, don't you think?
Well, my ex is now about many, many thousands of dollars in arrears. Rent is late, again. My daughter had a growth spurt and needs new things. Boots. Clothing. A coat. My son is saving for his tuition. The courts are STILL undecided as to how to handle this. There's no support for this #SingleMom or any mom like me. No money coming in from the non-custodial parent has a devastating effect. This home is riddled with anxiety, (thank you, Dr. Dick) and the NYS court system is a joke! The one luxury we have is cable. Necessary. The Wi-Fi is needed for homework and work. The tv is an escape, the kids and I bond over our favorite shows. However, the tv just went on the Fritz. It just keeps clicking and won't turn on. I called the company and they have given me misinformation, TWICE! Way to go #Samsung.
Back to the two weeks... My cousin married his beautiful love. As I watched them recite their vows and many times during their reception, I felt HAPPY. I saw pure LOVE. I saw sheer JOY. And for the tiniest second, I felt sad. For myself. I don't think I ever had that. Felt that kind of love and probably never will. I'm also okay with that, I have my children. When I looked at Ray and Karina, I was so happy that they have each other. My Ray is a wonderful man. He and my baby sister, Jean, are the youngest of our generation. He lived across the street from us and was always with us. He was like a little brother. He is a genuinely nice man. And good. And funny. Karina is beautiful and a joy to be around. They are really a good couple. I can't wait for the babies!
Another plus for me, my work environment changed. It was rough going for a while and then it all changed. I feel different when I walk in the building. Better. Lighter. I pray that all my colleagues are happy and feel that way too! Change is good. So, let's see where this goes.
Sunday... it's cold, wet and dreary. As I posted on Facebook yesterday, it's the kind of weather that inspires my soul. I love this time of year. It's easy to feel joy and see good things in the heat and sunshine. It's when you see it on days like these, or in the attic blast of winter, with a foot of snow on the ground... THAT'S when you know - you're going to be okay.
This #SingleMom asks that we all take care of one another. #LoveEachOther
Wednesday, September 16, 2015
Distractions and Bradley Cooper
I'm SO glad that I worked today. It made the nonsense disappear. At least for a little while. I like to watch people. I always wonder about what everyone else's life is like. Are they happy? Most of the time, I am. What do they like to eat for dinner. For me,anything except liver and calamari. Can they cook? I'm a bad ass in the kitchen! Do they have a favorite scent? Christmas. Christmas and my grandparents home in Puerto Rico. I used to love to smell my grandparents' clothing and luggage whenever they would visit. I miss them and think of them every day.
I was distracted at work and happy to be. Walking to and from work listening to Kelly Clarkson's latest album. She's SOOOOO good! I should be listening to Brandi Carlisle, though. My daughter got concert tickets to see Brandi for her birthday and wants me to be her date. Brandi is another amazing voice. I'll start listening to all her stuff tomorrow.
The more I post, the more you'll read about my obsession with a few guys. My main one is and will ALWAYS be my Bradley. He's beautiful. *sigh* Bradley Cooper. I've seen every moviee he's ever made. Several times apiece. I swoon, yes, I said swoon. I think Ryan Paevey from General Hospital is yummy. He's on my cell phone screen saver. Tyler Hoechlin is scrumptious. Chris Pine, Tom Hardy, Henry Cavill. Pierce Brosnan! How could I forget about Pierce??? My first love. I still watch reruns of 'Remington Steele'. Admittedly, I'm not as obsessed over Bradley as I was with Pierce. I had posters of him all over my bedroom. I'm a little past that stage with Bradley. That doesn't mean there aren't loads of pics of him on my cell. I even have my wedding gown all picked out! Ok, that sounded creepy. Who am I kidding? I don't care!
I should be asleep. This is why I don't like closing. My sleep schedule gets all wonky. I'll be up until 3 AM watching old episode of 'Frasier'. Ooh... Fraser fir. Another one of my very favorite scents!
Nah' nite!
This #SingleMom hates #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
I was distracted at work and happy to be. Walking to and from work listening to Kelly Clarkson's latest album. She's SOOOOO good! I should be listening to Brandi Carlisle, though. My daughter got concert tickets to see Brandi for her birthday and wants me to be her date. Brandi is another amazing voice. I'll start listening to all her stuff tomorrow.
The more I post, the more you'll read about my obsession with a few guys. My main one is and will ALWAYS be my Bradley. He's beautiful. *sigh* Bradley Cooper. I've seen every moviee he's ever made. Several times apiece. I swoon, yes, I said swoon. I think Ryan Paevey from General Hospital is yummy. He's on my cell phone screen saver. Tyler Hoechlin is scrumptious. Chris Pine, Tom Hardy, Henry Cavill. Pierce Brosnan! How could I forget about Pierce??? My first love. I still watch reruns of 'Remington Steele'. Admittedly, I'm not as obsessed over Bradley as I was with Pierce. I had posters of him all over my bedroom. I'm a little past that stage with Bradley. That doesn't mean there aren't loads of pics of him on my cell. I even have my wedding gown all picked out! Ok, that sounded creepy. Who am I kidding? I don't care!
I should be asleep. This is why I don't like closing. My sleep schedule gets all wonky. I'll be up until 3 AM watching old episode of 'Frasier'. Ooh... Fraser fir. Another one of my very favorite scents!
Nah' nite!
This #SingleMom hates #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
The phone calls..
Today, today, today. Today I made some very important phone calls. Important information to obtain, 'stop giving me the run-around' and 'catch up' type of phone calls. I reconnected with someone who worked my case about 10 years ago. She was a wealth of info and is looking into done things for me. Keep your fingers crossed.
This young woman, Teddy, she tells me that things are on hold because my ex husband is taking me back to court. Yup, you read that correctly. HE'S TAKING ME BACK TO COURT. I've yet to be served papers but this is how it will work out... His scumbag of an attorney will serve me the day before. He'll leave papers taped to my door, as usual. That's allowed in New York state, believe it or not. The thing is, he'll tape it to my door the night before I'm supposed to appear. Then, the asshole will say that I'm not in compliance when I can't take the day of on such short notice.
It's funny, in a sad way, that the court will allow this. My ex usually files petitions against me and will either not show up, tending to his sick mother who actually passed away over a decade ago. OR, his attorney will show up hours late. Sometimes, he shows up so late that my case has already been called and I'm walking out of the building. Then I'll have to come back several times because if an adjournment.
Sadly, I'm not the only mother in this position. Some kids never see the money that is due to them. I don't understand how this system works. My heart breaks for my children. For every child out there that has faced nights without food, no clothing, eviction. I want the world to open their eyes, for gosh sake!
This man will claim he's broke or unemployed. No balls. Coward. Selfish pig. My kids, yes, MY kids deserved a better person than he is. So, back to court I go. My home away from home. This #SingleMom will do what she has to for her kids. I'm coming for you.
#BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
This young woman, Teddy, she tells me that things are on hold because my ex husband is taking me back to court. Yup, you read that correctly. HE'S TAKING ME BACK TO COURT. I've yet to be served papers but this is how it will work out... His scumbag of an attorney will serve me the day before. He'll leave papers taped to my door, as usual. That's allowed in New York state, believe it or not. The thing is, he'll tape it to my door the night before I'm supposed to appear. Then, the asshole will say that I'm not in compliance when I can't take the day of on such short notice.
It's funny, in a sad way, that the court will allow this. My ex usually files petitions against me and will either not show up, tending to his sick mother who actually passed away over a decade ago. OR, his attorney will show up hours late. Sometimes, he shows up so late that my case has already been called and I'm walking out of the building. Then I'll have to come back several times because if an adjournment.
Sadly, I'm not the only mother in this position. Some kids never see the money that is due to them. I don't understand how this system works. My heart breaks for my children. For every child out there that has faced nights without food, no clothing, eviction. I want the world to open their eyes, for gosh sake!
This man will claim he's broke or unemployed. No balls. Coward. Selfish pig. My kids, yes, MY kids deserved a better person than he is. So, back to court I go. My home away from home. This #SingleMom will do what she has to for her kids. I'm coming for you.
#BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
Thursday, September 10, 2015
This #SingleMom...
Such a long week. The sadness of knowing that I can do my best and still get nowhere just frustrates me. A beautiful opportunity lands at your feet and you can't take advantage of it because there is just no money. I sat on my sofa and cried like I hadn't in years. "Don't worry, Mom", "It's okay, Mom, I don't have to go"... It slowly kills me. You can rob Peter to pay Paul but it just gets you deeper, right? I fight to keep our heads above water. My heart is always, ALWAYS in my chest. Is today the day?
I often wonder about what my legacy will be to my children. I fear that I've projected my anxiety onto them. I pray that I have loved them so much, that it will outweigh the fact that I can't give them what I want, Or what they need. My friend Jon told me that what my little family is going through will build character. I get that, but does it have to cost them so much?
I watch my son. I know it hurts him. I know he wants to be in college so very badly. His friends are all going back, he stays. I kick myself for trusting an a poor excuse of a person. "I'll always take care of my kids", my ass. New York state has such crummy laws. This nonsense has gone on for so long. Reds flags should have gone up years ago.
I'm learning valuable lessons this week. Dignity and self-respect, I'm trying like hell to hold onto to them both. Sure, I live on the Upper East Side in good old NYC. Folks are impressed by that. Status. Wealth. I can't pay my rent. #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
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I often wonder about what my legacy will be to my children. I fear that I've projected my anxiety onto them. I pray that I have loved them so much, that it will outweigh the fact that I can't give them what I want, Or what they need. My friend Jon told me that what my little family is going through will build character. I get that, but does it have to cost them so much?
I watch my son. I know it hurts him. I know he wants to be in college so very badly. His friends are all going back, he stays. I kick myself for trusting an a poor excuse of a person. "I'll always take care of my kids", my ass. New York state has such crummy laws. This nonsense has gone on for so long. Reds flags should have gone up years ago.
I'm learning valuable lessons this week. Dignity and self-respect, I'm trying like hell to hold onto to them both. Sure, I live on the Upper East Side in good old NYC. Folks are impressed by that. Status. Wealth. I can't pay my rent. #BeingBrokeOnTheUpperEastSide
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